Motherhood should be taught at schools
We have all had that moment. when the winner of the award is called upon stage and she thanks her mother, reminding us that motherhood is the most important job in the world. The moment is often accompanied by tears of joy and other things which should not be in open display for public consumption. Granted! I have had a few kleenex moments of my own. And I will be the first to vote in favour of any assertion that cites motherhood as the most important job around, but why aren’t we regulating this business?
If social grant statistics are anything to go by the motherhood industry is one of the fastest growing over the last decade. people are seriously taking up god on his suggestion to populate the world and to marry of course.
As often as it is said that children are the future perhaps it wouldn’t be such a bad idea to have formal training for the people who are responsible for that future. Motherhood should be an academic course taught at schools. I know the feminists are going to have my head for this one, so before the guards take me to the gallows let me go for the jugular.
The very idea that motherhood is an instinctive affair is not only utopian it is fast disapproving its own validity. I have a problem trusting a gender that at times have been known to dump babies in trash bags, and abort them at the ages of twelve.
Now of course these things always happen because of other social pressures, chief of which is the lacking of available male support.
Studies have suggested that up to 40% of South African children grow up without fathers. Surely as useful as a social grant would be (I use the term loosely because by modern standards R300 is anything but useful) we need a stronger support system for young and first time mothers.
We live in a society where cultural convention trumps social responsibility and very often young single mothers are ostracised because they are viewed as spoilt goods. The underlying objective of having motherhood as an academic course available at our schools would be to create a conducive support structure for women who are going through this, so they can engage in dialogue with each other.
But more over it will provide an opportunity to take away the stigma that comes with early single parenting. As young people with or without children start speaking openly about these issues it creates a greater sense of community.
There are many who would in turn argue that the implementation of such a thing would advocate for a more patriarchal society then the one we already have, to them I would say maybe in this instance patriarchy isn’t such a bad word. In many middle eastern countries where initiatives like this are common place studies have shown that family dynamics and social support far exceed that which is available in developed countries.
Learning motherhood does not mean that it takes away a mother’s right to decide on their child’s future, but it would be a great start towards making sure that mothers know the options that are available to them. Be it from little things like how to help you kids in school to even more important ones like when to vaccinate and for what. We can longer afford to sweep under the carpet the many social problems that arise from bad parenting. We need to reverse the trend and start actively taking action is raising our future. As the cliché goes, it takes a village to raise a child.